Sunday, 4 May 2025

Experience


Experience helps you learn about the everyday realities of working life and most importantly equips you with the soft skills needed to succeed at any organization. In addition to having knowledge and experience in a trade or profession, expert implies extraordinary proficiency and connotes knowledge and technical skill. Popular belief is that the key to becoming an expert is to devote at least 10,000 hours to the study and practice of a subject. Expertise is defined as exceptional, elite, or peak performance on specific tasks in specific domains. Expertise is perceived as being the result of hard work and practice. Life experiences are the events and situations that shape our individual journeys and contribute to personal growth and development. The happiness provided by new material possessions is short-lived. Over time, people's satisfaction with the things they buy decreases, whereas their satisfaction with experiences over time increases. Experience is making mistakes and learning from them. The trouble with experience is that by the time you have it you are too old to take advantage of it. Experience is what you get when you did not get what you wanted. Good judgement comes from experience, and experience comes from bad judgement. Fill your life with experiences. Not things. Have stories to tell, not stuff to show.         

Of all the things needed to do something right, experience counts the most. What counts most is the energy or enthusiasm to do it. Finding both of these together is rare, which explains why our world is less than perfect. The famous saying "If one could learn from watching alone, then even the dog would become a butcher" elegantly outlines why and how experience counts. Experience is better and there is a very thin line between experience and monotony. Several companies has seen a paradigm shift from the experienced candidates getting preference to freshers being hired in large numbers and now it is shifting back again to the experienced. How far this is correct remains a question of debate. For all that youth lacks, experience can compensate. For all that old age is incapable of achieving, youth could become the instrument. There has been growing acceptance of the need to make retirement a gradual process. This could be done by reducing working hours gradually till retirement or breaking the monotony as retirement approaches by setting more enjoyable roles for them. By recognizing the worth of the experienced and the potential of the youth and making them work together, youth would know much more and aged could do much more.   

 

Adultery

Adultery is a crime in many jurisdictions, although it is rarely prosecuted. The Pope Francis has declared on 9th Dec'2021 that the sin of adultery is not the most serious of sins. Adultery is not be a criminal offence. It is only a ground for divorce. What two consenting adults do in their bedrooms is not something they should be sent to jail for. It is not the business of the state. Many couples overcome cheating. Affairs usually end in divorce and remarriage, or divorce and relationship loss, or the recommitment to the relationship that was betrayed. Living with another person during the existence of current relationship is a ground for seeking divorce. Dating is not adultery. If you have to question, ‘Is this cheating?’ it is probably cheating. Under most laws, the married participant is an adulterer and the single one merely a fornicator.

Accomplishments


Accomplishments do not matter. We are all going to pass by. In almost every probable scenario, over the long-term, the universe is going to continue on without any tangible sign that it has been disturbed by our existence. Ultimately, nothing we do matters. Alexander, Shakespeare, Newton, and Napoleon will be nothing more than lost whispers. Death will occur when it occurs. It is a problem as long as we make it a problem. The purpose of life is not to accomplish. It is to experience. Right now.

Adult life

Adult life involves taking full responsibility of life. As young adults grow older, relationships grow more serious. Relationships will only work till the end if you are fit, rich and everything. The girlfriend  or a boyfriend, you are hanging with, may leave you one day if you are out of shape. Adult life is all about priorities. Being an adult is not only about having choice, it is also about understanding the consequences your choices have and seeking help when you can not make good choices. We do not have to live our adult lives according to our parents' wishes. You are fully responsible and can do whatever you want to do, within your means. The behavior of friends, colleagues and competitors would neither be entirely right nor entirely wrong. Never judge a person too early. Getting smart about money is crucial. Learning to budget, save, and invest is key to hitting the financial goals. Life throws curveballs. No matter how well you plan, something unexpected can always come up. Adulting sucks. Everyone is struggling with something. Earning money is good and liberating. You can afford to do things and buy things that you never could before, your access and relationship to money changes totally as an adult. The problem comes if you are undisciplined with it. Being an adult with healthy life skills takes several years, a couple of kids, life changing relationships, a great career, lots of mistakes, and wonderful friends. Being a happy adult is rewarding and spiritually educational.