Life and its goals

• There are things to chase and achieve, but you also need to find exuberance in little things.
• Every child’s wish is to experience adulthood. Waiting for the time when you can buy your own stuff with your money, travel alone etc.
• Until then you accomplish your short-term goal, do well in the examinations in school or college. You had to do what you had to do. 
• Then starts real life, the real thing you earned, after all these years of hard work and lassitude... freedom!
• Then you find a job, get settled. Not so easy, not about settling down. You earn your own money, shop whenever you feel like, eat whatever you want, pay your own bills, live your own life, the way you wanted it. You’re now independent, you’ve become an adult now.
• Is that all you wanted, to grow old? 
• A human being’s needs change impulsively and is all ephemeral. If you have a bicycle, you'll want a bike; have a bike, want a car; have a car, want an apartment! So it’s time to find your next big goal, higher studies or highly paid jobs or extravagant marriages. The choice is yours. 
• And then the new struggle begins. Finding your new goal changes everything. Either you relent and start leading the so-called machine life, or as most people wish, miracle happens! Does it?
• Your life is perfect like a ceiling fan: as it keeps running everything is fine, the moment you stop it you'll know the mess you made all these years of running. Running behind money, fame, beauty, until you start realising that you are losing yourself in this. You always have the choice of stopping the fan and cleaning it, as and when you feel like its dusty, or in other words to keep it clean.
• Resilience of exasperation, finding exuberance in little things, let it be playing with a kid, helping the poor, shopping, meeting an old friend, a simple phone call to your dearest, going on a vacation, reading a book of your choice, eating your comfort food, a power nap, etc. Self-pampering. That is all it takes to enjoy the adulthood. Find your passion and keep working on it till you master it.
• It's not easy achieving goals in life. To achieve any goal in life set them the right way, plan and execute their actions in accordance with achieving those dreams over time. 
• Plan your next action carefully and that will plan your life trajectory.
• Wealth should never be the goal in life. Words may be eloquent but they are mere words. True wealth is of the heart. 
• When money becomes the purpose, stress and depression becomes the path.

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The mystery of human existence lies not in just staying alive, 

but in finding something to live for ... Fyodor Dostoyevsky

Be grateful for what you already have 
while you pursue your goals ... Roy Bennett

Avoid being judgmental

• We are all judgmental. It’s human nature. 
• While it is in our nature to be judgmental, it’s not always useful to us. We look down on others, as if we are so much better and that creates division between people. 
• You are not the only one with betchy opinions. We see someone, and based on their looks or actions, we pass judgment on them. Not good judgment, either. Usually without even knowing the person. In most cases, we don’t really have any idea what’s behind other people’s actions. We don’t make an effort to get to know the person, or understand them, or see whether our judgment was right or not. 
• We judge, without understanding. We don’t try to find out more, and through communication begin to understand, and through understanding begin to build a bridge between two human beings.
• It might be hard to avoid gossip completely, but make an effort to change the conversation when your friends start sounding judgmental. Try bringing up another perspective, or sneak some of that person’s good qualities into the discussion. If you can’t help but get caught up in the negativity of your usual social group, find a more positive friend who you can spend time with too.
• Everyone makes mistakes, so make a point of framing it as a bad action, not a sign of bad character. 
• As you feel a negative thought enter your brain, accept it as a thought only and then redirect your mind to think about something else. Detaching yourself from your thoughts will keep you from getting caught up in criticizing others.
• An onslaught of scary events (political upheaval, apocalyptic weather) has made us all feel unstable, amplifying our instinctual urge to call out those who threaten the norm. Because things seem less predictable we're assessing more, looking to shut down threats everywhere. 
• It is easy to dismiss these savage instincts as harmless. But constantly judging others can create an addictive cycle. We judge, then judge ourselves for judging, then feel bad, then judge others again, ultimately losing way too much mental energy to process that makes us feel foolish. 
• The solution is noticing the critical thoughts and then replacing them with kindness. 
• When you begin your day with self-judgment, you end up projecting those insecurities onto others. Instead try to notice your judgment without judgment. When you realize that you are critiquing yourself, congratulate yourself for noticing. Positive reinforcement neutralizes negative feelings, squashing the urge to transfer them onto someone else.
• After recognizing what triggers your judginess and using positive mantras, try cultivating compassion. Looking for people's good qualities helps you feel more love for them. So close your eyes for a second, breathe deep, and reflect on how hardworking this guy is.
• Evening is great time to take inventory of your and forgive yourself for all the times you have judged. This is the last step in your detox. No matter how many negative thoughts slipped through, tell yourself that you did the best you could. And be proud of all the critical thoughts you did catch. 
• In order to let other people off the hook, you first have to let yourself off the hook.

Be curious, not judgmental ... Walt Whitman