Monday, 24 April 2017

It does not matter what others think

It can be really hard not to worry what other people think about you. Wanting to be liked, and approved of, and smiled at, and applauded is a fairly basic need among modern humans, especially those who have their actual basic needs already met. When you're getting all of those much-wanted things, it's fabulous. Those people who you know - love and support you, it will always be with your best interests at heart. It's okay to sometimes be at odds with the people you love. The only person you need to be true to in your life is yourself. 

What you need to stop caring about is what the world-at-large thinks of you. Co-workers, party acquaintances, friends of friends, etc. It does not matter what these people think. They're perfectly entitled to their opinions, and you are perfectly entitled to not give a damn about those opinions. If someone wants to judge you, that's their problem. 
  1. The best way to get something done is to do it yourself.
  2. Sometimes people respond from a place of fear. Most people are uncomfortable with change, they’re not likely to be your biggest supporter. From this place of fear, they tend to nudge you back to their comfort zone. Be cautious of fear-based input.
  3. It doesn't matter what other people think of you because they don't have to live with you. You are the only person you need to be concerned with when you're making decisions, not your annoying neighbors. So prioritize what you think about you and forget everyone else.
  4. Others criticism of you is rarely about you at all. When someone judges you, their opinions are based on their perception of themselves and their own insecurities. You have no control over what other people decide to do.
  5. You shouldn't need other people to validate you. Often, we look outward for validation that we are enough and that we're doing a good job at existing. They're also mean, self-absorbed, judgmental and pretentious, so seeking validation from other people is futile and self-defeating. If you feel good then that's all the validation you need. 
  6. No one really knows your life. When people pass judgment, they do so from a very superficial, outside perspective. No one knows why you are the way you are or why you act the way you do. They don't know you. You know you.
  7. You have no obligation to hold onto anything that doesn't serve you. If something doesn't serve you, let it go. Hold onto things that make you feel good. It's your choice get on with your life and all the beautiful, positive things within it that make you happy.

The best way you can serve other people is to take care of yourself first

My View:
Intelligent people learn from others experiences, mitigate risks and avoid disasters. Learning from own experiences is waste of time & resources and pull down emotionally.

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