To be Smart or To be Nice!

• One tends to use big words, when insecure and to appear smarter! It is usually has opposite effect.
• Smart people have good vocabulary. Using thesaurus in emails, one may be guilty of boosting intelligence perception. But smart writing is usually simpler and easier to understand.
• Intelligence is associated with clarity of expression.
• Smart people use long words in their writing but their is aim is to write clearly.
• Any cue associated with wisdom - thick book, fluent speech, grey hair, wearing glasses - may give rise to impression of smartness.
• Persons having good sense of humor show really higher intelligence. So men can use humor as an easy and honest, hard to fake, cue of intelligence.
• If people find some one attractive and an authentic smile tends to enhance attractiveness, they are inclined to assign other good qualities to them, like intelligence.
• Most of our daily interactions with others are short and superficial. However, we are less easily fooled during prolonged or repeated interactions.
• Good eye contact means the other person is responsive to what you are doing or saying. If he is not responsive, either you are dull or he is dumb. Conservationists who maintain good eye contact are rated higher than those who avoided someone's gaze.
• Alcohol beverages lower perceived intelligence levels. People holding wine or beer are judged less intelligent than those holding soda or mineral water.
• People will like you not because of your smartness, but because of your warmth and kindness. Besides liking, there is also respecting which is based on intelligence. When you want other to like you, present yourself as a person who is nice rather than smart. But if you want others to respect you, present yourself intelligent rather than nice.

Be honest, be nice, be a flower not a weed ... Aaron Neville

It is nice to be important, but it's more important to be nice ... John Templeton

Treat others as you wish to be treated. Don't just be nice, but be kind to other people.
That can be so rewarding ... Mary Lambert

My View:

Usage of jargon usually goes over the head of listeners and is of no use. Using simple and effective words is the best way of verbal communicating. However written communications which has to be clear can be long and contain appropriate jargon. Smart people are viewed by other with suspicion. It is better to be nice rather than smart or intelligent. Smartness results in rat race, where the winner is still a rat. Smartness may make you successful & rich, but nicety will make you live a rich life.